Habits that distinguish men from boys

It's time for you to learn how to grow up and become the man you were born to be. And this article will help you with that. But there is a problem. Over the past few years, masculinity has gained notoriety. We have been told that it is toxic and dangerous and that it is a vice rather than a virtue. Somewhere along the way, men understood the signal and decided to reject mature masculine virtues in favor of seemingly permanent adolescence. As a result, we have an entire generation of "men" who are nothing more than teenagers walking around in the body of an adult. It's time to grow up. Let's learn how to be an adult and, most importantly, how to be a strong man of character, virtue, and strength.

1. Children act on feelings, men act on vision

The main difference between boys and real men is that boys act on emotions, and men act on vision. Boys are like a feather in the wind. They allow their emotional state to control their actions and decide whether or not to maintain their commitments in the midst of the moment. If they don't feel like doing something, they don't. Boys will press the snooze button on the alarm clock instead of getting up early and doing what needs to be done. They will be late for meetings. They will postpone their work. They will postpone what they have to do for what they want to do in the moment. Men are different. Men create a crystal clear vision of their future and then base every action on that vision. It doesn't matter if a man wants to eat another piece of cake, smoke that cigarette, or sleep for an extra 50 minutes. He knows the vision he has for his life and is not willing to compromise on his future success for fun in the present moment. A strongman settled on the ground is willing to do something he doesn't like, even if it's something he hates if it will push him forward toward seeing him.

2. Children waste their mental energy. And men keep it.

According to the law of supply and demand, time is not your most precious asset. Mental energy is your most precious asset. Unless you suffer some kind of tragic early death, most of you who read this will live to age 79 or so. This means that the total number of hours in your life will be about 690.000 hours. You will work at maximum mental energy levels for less than 25% of those hours! You'll have optimal mental energy levels (10/10) for less than 6% of those hours! (Mental energy levels tend to peak for 90-120 minutes about two hours after you wake up) so while your time may be limited, your mental energy is more limited. The boys do not recognize this fact. They are happy to waste their mental energy. As for men, they do not. Men know that this is the only life we guarantee them. They value and carefully maintain their mental energy. They are selective about the projects and tasks they will deal with and always make sure that they invest their mental energy in ways that will ultimately help them build their best lives.

3. Children abuse their bodies, and men use their bodies as weapons

In a country where the obesity rate is more than 33%, this view is not common. If you don't take care of your body, you can't call yourself a tough guy. Point! Your health is your most precious asset and if you abuse her with drugs, alcohol, bad foods, and lack of sleep, you act like a boy. Boys believe that they are invincible. Thus, they treat their bodies with contempt. They do not prioritize sleep. They overuse drugs and alcohol. They have unsafe sex. They never train. And they don't realize what they're putting in their bodies. Men are different. Men know that their bodies are one of their most valuable assets. It is the ship that will take them to the next level and allow them to experience everything this life has to offer. And they treat it that way. Men train at least 3 times a week. They value their sleep. They understand that food is fuel, not pleasure.

4. Boys appreciate entertainment. And men appreciate knowledge and wisdom

You can learn a lot about someone by asking a simple question: "What was the last book you read?" If someone says they don't read, and especially if they make that statement with a sense of pride and ego, they are more likely to be immature and unsuccessful. In fact, studies have shown that 86% of wealthy people read for personal development for at least 30 minutes a day compared to only 2% of poor people (who are likely to be on their way to getting rich!). Boys will complain about studying. They do not understand the value of reading. They rarely try to learn a new skill just to expand their minds. On the other hand, men value their minds and treat them as a precious resource. Boys watch hours of Netflix and TV. Men read for hours every day.

5. Children let others direct their lives. Men are self-reliant

One of the most important factors that distinguishes boys from strong men, and the ultimate answer to the question "how to become an adult," is that boys base their life decisions on the opinions and whims of others while men rely on themselves and drive their own boat. Boys go to college because their parents want to. Boys take a job because their friends think they should do it. Children get married because "everyone does it." Men have a basic set of values, beliefs and goals and refuse to be influenced by the will of others. They will listen to advice from people who are wiser and more experienced than them, of course. But in the end, their decisions are theirs alone.