The art of being kind to your boss

It's unfortunate that much of your success at work isn't due to how efficiently you actually are. It's down to how efficient your boss is. If you're the type of person who cares about working hard and making a difference, it can be frustrating if your boss doesn't appreciate these things, or has a different view of what these things look like. I would never support trying to manipulate or mislead your boss. But there's value in paying attention to how you nurture your relationship with him, get to the same page, and achieve mutually successful work. Since most bosses have cups full of more things than you can shake with a banana, the onus is on you to take the initiative.

Pay attention to what they appreciate.

Getting work done isn't just about meeting a deadline. While your boss may be happy with your time management, that doesn't mean you're doing the job the way or the way they're looking for. If you're retail, your boss might prefer to arrange products on shelves in a certain way (most likely "labeling"). If you work in an office, you may prefer to arrange folders in a certain way (tabs up!) , or format documents in a specific way (font size 11). Whatever you like, search for it and then follow it. The oddities and characteristics of your boss are the key to his heart. It is your key to an easier working life.

See what motivates them

Always remember one important fact about most bosses: they rarely get a pat on the back. As a result, they have to build a network of personal incentives to stay motivated. And it's easy to understand why. Everything they do well is categorized under "That's what you should do." While any errors are classified as "bad managers". Whatever adds a little excitement to your boss's meal, figure it out, try to acknowledge it, and if you can, tell him you appreciate it. Some bosses like efficiency – let them know how their systems save you time. Some like to help others develop – thank them for their guidance and training. Others are just hardworking workers who love results - celebrate victories and make sure they get flowers. Everyone appreciates the cannons.

Turn your complaint into suggestions

Be part of the change you want to see. Presidents have enough problems without adding more. They likely agree with you on this issue anyway, but they won't appreciate you reminding them of the millionth thing they couldn't do. Because as long as there were water coolers, there were employees standing around complaining about their boss. While this may make you feel temporary, it doesn't change anything. But if you can offer constructive solutions or suggestions, you're already helping them. Let's say your boss continues to prepare projects without providing a clear idea of the goals, process, and deadline. As a result, recent projects have been disorganized, delayed and ineffective. Instead of pointing fingers at them or trying to raise your concerns in an angry way, you can help by being proactive to get this information before any opening meetings. Or ask questions at the meeting that get information that everyone will benefit from. The trick is to do it in a way that boosts your boss's power, rather than stigmatizing him. They will remember how you treat them. Make the memories positive.

Be strong

Ladies and gentlemen, please allow me to present myself with the "Online Writer" award for the most obvious advice in writing articles. But wait! Although it seems obvious, it has as much to do with implementation as it is with the idea. Working hard and doing a lot of things can actually work against you if you prioritize things your boss doesn't care about, or focus on what's good for you and your role over what's good for him. When you're diligent and your boss is confident in achieving the results they care about, you have the power to influence them. You have something he wants, and the means to provide it. So when your boss makes it clear that he wants you to get something done, do it. And do it well. Make this a constant habit and you will become the one to turn to. Then you will have the ability to purchase a small area for maneuver and proxy.

Remember they're human.

Despite the horns and pointed tail, your boss is just like you: a human. Just like you, they are a tapestry rich in anxiety, insecurity, challenges, experiences, cultural impulses and misconceptions. No matter how competent or confident they are, they – like all of us – will face and have to overcome the kinds of pressures and setbacks that plague us all. They are as likely to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and deprived as any of us. So when you experience frustrations with them, try to remember that there is someone out there who is doing their best. And they are likely to think they are doing a good job. Maybe they're wrong, or maybe you have a different idea of what a good idea looks like. And all you know, if I had handed out the papers they handed out you, you could have ended up just like them. If you can remember that behind every "bad" decision someone makes, someone just trying to survive their day, maybe you can dig deeper into your pockets of empathy and find something to help. Even a little empathy is better than nothing.