A book that may interest you - don't be too nice

One of the most important self-development books that discusses the art of rejection, not only for the logic of rejection. But rejection is for the sake of psychological and health interest. Not all acceptance is praiseworthy and not all rejection is blameworthy.

Don't Be Too Kind provides a broad look at our behaviors and how they affect our relationships and lives in general. Robinson argues that being too kind can be harmful, as it can lead to being exploited by others, feeling resentful, or even losing self-esteem.

The book provides practical steps on how to set healthy boundaries in our relationships, how to say "no" without feeling guilty, and how to overcome feelings of shame or loneliness that may prevent us from setting these boundaries.

We highly recommend this book to anyone who feels exploited by others. And anyone who has difficulty saying "no". Or he feels resentful of others. Or suffer from feelings of shame or loneliness. It is also mainly aimed at anyone who wants to build stronger and healthier relationships.

The most important ideas of the book

In a smooth and easy style, the author discusses many ideas that may seem very simple, but at the same time have a profound impact on our lives, both work and personal.

The book highlights the dangers of being too kind, and how it can exploit us and drain our energy.

In his book, Robinson offers a set of practical tips for setting healthy boundaries in our relationships, getting rid of feelings of guilt and unwanted obligations, and balancing kindness and self-protection.

The book provides valuable information about the dangers of excessive gratification and ways to get rid of it. The author provides real-life examples from everyday life that help the reader understand the concepts better. Here's a quick summary of the most important ideas:

• The difference between kindness and goodness: Robinson differentiates between kindness and goodness, where kindness refers to superficial behaviors and courtesy, while goodness refers to the true intention of goodness and help.

Risks of being too kind: Robinson warns of the dangers of being too kind, such as:

1. Others exploit us.

2. Feeling of depletion and fatigue.

3. Feelings of guilt and unwanted obligations.

4. Loss of self-esteem.

• Signs of excessive kindness: The book provides some signs that indicate excessive kindness, such as: feeling resentful of others, feeling responsible for the feelings of others, difficulty saying "no", feeling afraid of conflict, feeling unappreciated.

How to set healthy boundaries: The book provides practical steps on how to set healthy boundaries in our relationships, such as: identifying our needs and desires, expressing our feelings clearly, learning to say "no" in positive ways, sticking to our decisions, and not allowing others to exploit us.

Overcoming feelings of shyness and loneliness: The book provides tips on how to overcome feelings of shyness and loneliness that may prevent us from setting healthy boundaries, such as: building self-confidence, practicing self-care, and forming healthy relationships with supportive people.

• Getting rid of feelings of guilt: Robinson offers tips to get rid of feelings of guilt that may control us as a result of excessive kindness, such as:

1. Remind ourselves that we are not responsible for the happiness of others.

2. Forgive ourselves for our mistakes.

3. Focus on the positives in our lives.

The book "Don't Be Too Nice" was very popular among Arab readers, as it received many positive reviews.

Readers praise the book's useful and practical content, and appreciate the valuable advice writer Duke Robinson gives to get rid of excessive gratification behaviors and build healthy relationships.

Despite this, he has faced many criticisms...

Book Criticism

Many opinions, especially readers, ranged from supporters to opponents of the book's ideas, most of which were focused on the following:

• Simplicity of ideas: Some readers find the ideas presented by the book simple and direct, and do not offer new or innovative solutions to the problem of excessive gratification. Some even said that they were ideas that had nothing to do with reality.

Generalizations: Some opinions have been expressed that the book makes broad generalizations about overly gratifying behaviors, without taking into account individual differences between people. That is, it speaks generally, not focuses on specific situations.

Ignoring some aspects: Some people have accused the writer of ignoring some important aspects of human relationships, such as empathy and social responsibility. That is, it turns the reader of the book into a selfish person most of the time. Those were exaggerated views.

• Difficulty of application: Some readers point out that the advice given by the writer may be difficult to apply in some situations. A pure theory without connection to reality. This too was prejudiced against the writer, because there were also many who praised the realism of applying ideas in their lives.